We all struggle from time to time with negative body image.
Maybe we have had babies and are left with stretch marks or loose skin. Maybe we have gained pounds over the years and just can’t seem to get them off. Maybe we just don’t like the way we look in the mirror.
If you don’t struggle with any negative body image issues then good job, but most of us at some point or another have.
How many women have you heard say things like, “If I could just lose this baby belly,” or “I have stretch marks all over my body,” or “My hair is just not like so and so’s, it’s so wild and crazy,” or “I will never be able to fit in those jeans again,” or my favorite is “Wow now that lady is just beautiful!”
I have said many of these statements and heard them also. I have to say when I am down on myself I am always referring to how beautiful someone else is. I always see a mom that is all fixed up. You know the mom that has the hair all fixed, makeup that is just perfect, hourglass body with big boobs, big butt, legs that go on for days, and a waist that is just perfect with no extra skin, no fluff, no stretch marks, and looks like she is straight out of a magazine shoot. These are the days that I am running around with a mom bun or hat, barely any makeup, sweat pants and a sweat shirt or a shirt with baby spit up or breast milk on it. Normally I see these moms and then I look in the mirror and I see myself with my what I call house clothes on and a baby wrapped to me making me look even more frumpy.
Now think about it. Do you think that is what everyone else thinks? No. They see through the exterior. They see your beautiful smile, your eyes that light up when your baby looks at you and smiles, they see you carrying that baby to make it happy because you are a loving mother. They see how genuine you are when you say hello and ask how they are. They love the way you are frugal in your ways and compassionate towards those in your life and the ones you meet.
When we are down on ourselves we have to think what are we saying to those around us. Do we have daughters that we are teaching bad habits by displaying negative body image. If I tell my daughters how unhappy I am with my body that will teach her to find her flaws.
We should be leading by example. We want our daughters to see themselves as beautiful creations of God. If we don’t see ourselves like this then they won’t either.
Love yourself for who you are. You don’t have to look like everyone else. God made us all unique. He created us just the way he wanted us.
Maybe we need to work on our health and it could help us feel better about ourself. But those things that we can not change like loose skin and stretchmarks are badges of honor. When we are blessed to carry a child then sometimes we are left with badges of honor. Think of these as your mommy badge and thank the Lord for allowing you to be blessed to be a mother. Your body did a big beautiful thing and it is amazing how the human body works. God is just amazing. So take those badges of honor and smile when you see them because they are a memory of how your body changed and provided for your little blessings.
We have to remember that God created us in His image.
In 1 Corinthians 13:12 Paul says, “Now we see things imperfectly as in a cloudy mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God knows me now.”
If we spend our time getting to know God then we will know how much he loves us flaws and all. As we get closer and closer to God the more others will be able to see Him in us.
You matter to God. Ask for His wisdom. Treat your body as a precious temple that He created and take care of it.