Boys will be boys!!
What does this mean?
Is this a bad thing to say? Are we being PC?
When you google “boys will be boys” you will find that most of the search results are about psychology and how we are stereotyping.
It seems that today if you say “boys will be boys” then you are stereotyping boys and girls. If we post a picture of our son playing barbies then it is the best thing since sliced bread. If our daughter is playing with tools then we are doing an awesome job of raising our children. But if you post a pic of your son with the tools and your daughter with the barbies then you are not letting them express who they are and all that nonsense. I have to say I don’t agree with all of that.
I believe kids play with what they want to play with. We shouldn’t push them either way. That means not pushing our son to play with baby dolls unless he chooses to. Not to make our daughter play with trains unless she decides she wants to on her own. I think we (those of us that are over 30+) played with whatever we chose to play with. I will say boys probably rarely played with baby dolls because they were outside more running, jumping, and getting muddy. While girls played kitchen, mommy, school, and other things that they saw their mom doing. It is ok!! It is ok for girls to do what they see their mom do and boys to copy and do what their dads do. It is normal! That is how they learn. I’m not saying it is bad if a boy wants to help his parent in the kitchen or a girl wants to help her parent work on the car. I just don’t think we should push them either way. I know many people will disagree with this and that is ok also.
The main thing here is that God created two totally different genders to complement each other. Yes, boys do not have to be a “manly man” who likes football or hunting to please the Lord. But they will grow up to be men and fathers of our future. They will be expected to lead their families and provide for them.
Many times when boys misbehave we tend to say, “oh well, boys will be boys!” and we overlook what they are doing. We allow them to be loud, rude, disobedient, or inconsiderate to others because thats just how boys are. Right? Wrong! Being a boy or male does not give them the right to be bad. Just because you are a boy does not give you an excuse to not do things and be lazy, hit everything, be rude to others, or talk mean or inconsiderate of others. However, we have to remember to not constantly say stop, be quiet, sit down, stop hitting, or don’t throw that all day long either. Boys will be caught doing things they shouldn’t. They will be caught at the top of a tree, climbing on the outside of the staircase :), in the pond up to their knees, and even muddy from head to toe. (Note: this doesn’t mean you wont find girls the same way because I know for a fact as a mom of girls that you most definitely can!)
So, yes this is my son climbing on the outside of the staircase.
Yes, I took his picture before I told him to get down.
Yes, he will climb on the staircase again I’m sure.
Yes, I will have to tell him to get down again!
“Boys will be boys!” and strong willed boys are very hard headed.
Just because they are boys does not mean they get away with it. They need to be taught what is ok and what is not. While it may be appropriate for them to climb trees it is not appropriate to climb the staircase. They have to learn respect for things and people. They have to learn that playing tackle and such is ok at the right time. Tackling their sister when she is not looking is not the right time. They need to learn that a debate during a discussion is ok if it is the right time. Debating over what mom or dad says is not. They have to learn that their anger can cause problems if it is not handled correctly. We have to teach them what is appropriate even though boys will be boys.
What we need to teach our boys.
Boys need us to hold them at a higher standard. They will one day lead families, churches, and possibly companies or the country.
We must teach them to be respectful. No insulting others.
Teach them to help others. Wether it is the lady across the street that needs help with the groceries or a special needs kid at school or church. Maybe it is a friend that is being bullied. They need to learn to step in and help.
Teach them to listen and do what they are told. Not after the 10th or 50th time telling them.
Teach them to handle and manage money early.
Teach them to express their anger and not hold it in or use it to hurt others.
Teach them to set goals and go for those goals not giving up.
Teach them to be responsible for their things and their actions.
Teach them to mow the grass, take out the trash, change a tire, fix a dead battery in a car, cook and do laundry. Their wives will one day thank us! 🙂
Teach them it is ok to be who they are.
Love them for the person they are that God created.
Boys will be boys! And those boys are growing up to be Men!
Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go,”
Proverbs 20:11 “Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is pure and right”
Proverbs 22:15 “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him”
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