Are you the one that has to be in charge?
Do you want to go from stressed to calm?
Can you relate to having to be in control of everything?
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I like to have a plan and I want that plan to go as planned each and every step of the way.
I like everything to have a place and be in it’s place.
In years past I have always wanted to make sure the decorations were just right. The tree lights hung just right and the ornaments in their places. Everything on the mantle needed to be symmetrical. Outside lights needed to be in place and cords hidden just where I thought they should go.
Letting my children or husband do it the way they wanted was so out of my comfort zone.
I am the MOM and I am supposed to be responsible for these things, right?
This year I decided to just let it go.
We chose a tree pretty quick when normally I have to walk all over the hills looking for the perfect tree. Dragging all of my family behind me. This year it was actually fun. I didn’t tell the kids no. I didn’t walk around every tree finding something wrong with it. It was the easiest, fastest, and most pleasant tree picking experience we have had.
We put the lights on and they were not perfect. The next day when half the lights on the tree went out I didn’t even get upset I just said, ” Oh well, we will go buy some more and add them to the tree.” It may be odd but it worked and it was not stressful.
We decorated the tree with our cheaper ornaments. The ornaments are pretty much stuck in the tree near the bottom. Some are hanging, some are not. Some are clustered together. Some are even on the floor under the tree. The littles are redecorating the tree everyday. I’m not stressing over it. I just let it go! I decided that I would not even put out the nice ornaments this year. It is just not worth the stress of having to keep them away from the little hands. Worrying about them getting broken or having to tell the littles to leave them alone. I chose to be joyful and not stressful.
The outside lights are getting put up this weekend I believe and I am not even stressed about the fact that we have two wreaths hung on the bottom front two windows and the others are still in the garage. Normally this would really bug me and the fact that they are not up yet would normally drive me crazy. But guess what. I’m not stressing over it. We had rain on the day I was going to go on the roof to put out the wreaths and lights and I am just thankful for the rain. The lights will get up when we get to them. Is it really worth stressing over? Nope! Ahh I feel the calm.
We have presents in the office that need to be wrapped and I plan on doing that soon lol. But stressing over the presents that are not wrapped and the fact that the tree has no presents under it is not worth it. Letting the littles play around the tree and under the tree and just playing and watching them have fun is more important. Calm not stress.
I am enjoying the moment and letting my children help do things.
Being Calm and Not Stressed
There is just something about learning to loosen up and not being in control. There is a sense of calmness that takes over you. The stress is gone.
To not be bossy.
To not be on edge.
To not use sharp words.
To not be rolling eyes.
To not being harsh.
To not crush spirits.
To not shoot down hopes or ideas.
To not be stressed.
To not be overwhelmed.
It is way less work and stress by letting go and not having to be in control.
How can you Let It Go?
If you want to join me this season then jump right in. Back off on making all the decisions. Let your family decide what they may want to do, even if it is very different from the norm. Ask their opinions on things and let them feel involved.
What Does God Say
“Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourself. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.”