Traditions can sometimes become more like torture than fun.
Do you have family traditions that you do every year around the holidays?
Do you feel like you have to do the normal traditions or you are messing up the entire holiday?
I mean you have to bake those specific cookies.
Go to the same get togethers at the same place.
Read the same stories.
Go to the mountains to get your Christmas tree and get it cut down from the same tree lot.
Make gingerbread houses and stress over the kids not doing it perfect.
Go to the same place to see the Christmas lights.
Visit the same Santa each year for your annual picture that never turns out very good.
Struggle to get a good picture while fussing with your kids because they hate it.
Send out Christmas cards with those wonderful memory filled pics on them.
Make a special treat for everyone to hand out at the family get togethers.
Write the perfect letter about your perfect family.
And of course you have to read the same Christmas story book and put out the same treats for Santa on Christmas Eve. I mean if you don’t do all of these things then it just isn’t Christmas, right?? Wrong!
Why do you have to do all of these things?
Does the happiness of your family depend on it?
Does anyone truly enjoy it?
Is it creating great family memories?
Most likely the answer to most of these questions is, No!
Choose Joy and Calm Over Traditions That Cause Torture
This year instead of keeping up with all of your traditions that cause torture to your loved ones lets choose Joy and Calm. Let it GO!!!
Re-evaluate your traditions. Find the ones that your family wants to do. The ones they actually enjoy!
Have a family meeting- Get your family together and ask them their honest opinion. (And really listen while being open.) Ask them what they like to do and what they don’t. (Don’t get your feelings hurt here.)
What to ask-
What traditions do you really like and look forward to?
What traditions do you really not like? (Be Honest!)
What makes you happy during this Christmas season?
What makes Christmas not fun for you?
Is there a new tradition you would like to start?
Write these things down and study them. Re-evaluate what you are doing and what the family wants to do. Make changes and let it go!
Release the control and embrace the freedom. I promise that if you skip a tradition it will not ruin the Christmas season and life will go on.
Maybe you have fond memories that you did with your family. Really think about them. You may find out that you didn’t do them every year :0! It may be something you did a few times and it just stuck with you. Maybe because you enjoyed it and wasn’t pressured to do it :0! Oh my!
Let it go! It will be OK!
What God Says
“You have let go of the commands of God and are holding on to the traditions of men.”