Modesty In Today’s World
Today modesty is just not important to way too many people. You can go to malls and see girls and women walking around with shorts so short that no boy or man would even need to use their imagination. Their shirts are either very short showing all of their stomachs or cut so low that their cleavage or breasts are very much exposed. Why is it that females feel they need to show so much skin? Is it low self esteem? High self esteem? I was raised to be modest and I am trying to instill this in my daughters in a world that is just not modest.
It is very hard to find clothing for young girls and teens these days. Shorts are just way too short in my opinion. Jeans are way too tight. I just think there are not a lot of choices for our daughters these days. It is a constant struggle to make sure their clothes fit and are not too short or tight. Then of course you have to deal with the, “Everyone wears their clothes like this, MOM!”
Schools and After School Activities
Back when I was in school there were dress codes in the schools. I know some schools still have them but some just do nothing about how students are dressed. When I go to the middle school and see 6th, 7th, and 8th grade girls walking around with cut off shorts that their bottoms are hanging out of and a spaghetti strap shirt that is also cut short enough to show their belly button something is wrong! And who is letting their daughters out of the house like that?!?! I know that girls will change their clothes or take off a sweater or jacket after they leave the house. I have seen my own girls do this and well, lets just say it didn’t go over very well. I check their social media sites and I highly suggest everyone do this. If I see my children wearing something that is not modest or not what they walked out of the house wearing I do address it. So, yes I know this can happen but we have to stay on top of it and there needs to be consequences when it does.
Innocence and Purity
Shouldn’t we strive to maintain the innocence and purity in our children as long as possible? Children are born with such a sweet innocence. Their pure minds are so precious and we should want them to stay that way! I don’t want my children to hear bad things or see impure things. Once they see it or hear it they no longer are pure and innocent. The Song of Songs is very clear that we are charged to not awaken love until the appropriate time as it states it three times. Look at Song of Song 2:7; 3:5; 8:4. I think this is very important!
What Does Modesty Reveal
Modesty is a reflection of how we think, love and obey God. Modesty is not only the way we dress though. It is also our attitudes, our behavior, and the language that comes out of our mouth and even written in social media. When you see a girl or boy dressed showing more than needed, do you like the photo? Do you comment on the photo? Do you share it or show it to others? Do you have impure thoughts when looking at it? God knows your thoughts.
Focus on God
We must focus on God and pleasing Him as well as carrying out His good works. When you or your children get dressed ask these questions. Would you wear this to church? Would you wear it in front of your youth leader or preacher? Would you wear it if you were going to meet the Lord today? Would Jesus approve of what you are wearing? Could what you have on cause someone else to sin? If you answer these questions and feel good about what you are wearing then you should be ok.
We should be focused on God so that we may shine for Him in a pleasing way!