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Making More Room For God In Your Everyday Life

By January 29, 2017 Encouragement

Do you want to make more room for God in your everyday life?

How do you do that you might say.

Life is so busy. Between rolling out of bed in the morning to climbing in the bed at night (yep, I have to roll and climb in and out of bed, short girl problems) there are only thousands of things that we have on our to-do-list.

So, how do you make more time in the day you say. There are only 24 hours and we need our sleep, our children need to eat, our houses need cleaning, laundry has to be done, and everyone needs to be taken somewhere. I get it I really do. As a mom of 5 ranging from 15 to 1, I totally get it.

We may desire more of Gods word and presence in our lives but do we really make him a priority?

You have to make room for Him.

Let me just tell you that just as bad as you need more of God in your life, he desires the same thing. He desires time with you!

Remember that God is present all the time.

When you wake up in the morning thank Him for breath and life.

When you are worried, seek His guidance and draw near to Him.

When your children are “upsetting” you, pray and let them see you praying. Sometimes you don’t have to actually say anything to them. You can pray openly in front of them and let them see and hear you asking God for guidance.

When you get in your car to take the kids to school or practices, pray for safe travels.

When you are on Facebook and you see a request for prayer, stop right there and pray.

When you are feeling lonely, scared, hurt, overwhelmed, emotional, in pain, unhappy, or worried remember
Psalm 145:18 “The Lord is near to all who call upon Him, To all who call upon Him in truth”.

Whatever you are doing include God.

Get out your Bible and read it. Don’t just let it collect dust. Don’t just use it on Sunday’s. Lay your Bible out on the counter and focus on one verse per day. Think about that verse all day in each thing you do that day. Let it sink in and understand it.

I love to make stick it notes of important verses and put them on the bathroom mirrors, fridge, or over the light switches.

Another great way to get Gods word in is to do hand verses. Take a verse and write it on your hand. You will see that verse all day long and be reminded of it and God. It is a great example of how He is always there with you.

He wants to be in every part of your day, from the small things to the huge things.

I have found that when I do these small things it really changes my mood. I feel more calm, joy, confidence, and comfort in my daily walk of life.

We just need to make God a priority in our lives and then our lives won’t seem so hectic.

James 4:8 “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you”

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Let It Go! Be Calm Not Stressed

By December 2, 2016 Encouragement, General, Mom Life
Let It Go! Be Calm Not Stressed

Are you the one that has to be in charge?

Do you want to go from stressed to calm?

Can you relate to having to be in control of everything?

Poses for the pictures?



I like to have a plan and I want that plan to go as planned each and every step of the way.

I like everything to have a place and be in it’s place.

In years past I have always wanted to make sure the decorations were just right. The tree lights hung just right and the ornaments in their places. Everything on the mantle needed to be symmetrical. Outside lights needed to be in place and cords hidden just where I thought they should go.

Letting my children or husband do it the way they wanted was so out of my comfort zone.

I am the MOM and I am supposed to be responsible for these things, right?


This year I decided to just let it go.

We chose a tree pretty quick when normally I have to walk all over the hills looking for the perfect tree. Dragging all of my family behind me. This year it was actually fun. I didn’t tell the kids no. I didn’t walk around every tree finding something wrong with it. It was the easiest, fastest, and most pleasant tree picking experience we have had.

We put the lights on and they were not perfect. The next day when half the lights on the tree went out I didn’t even get upset I just said, ” Oh well, we will go buy some more and add them to the tree.” It may be odd but it worked and it was not stressful.

We decorated the tree with our cheaper ornaments. The ornaments are pretty much stuck in the tree near the bottom. Some are hanging, some are not. Some are clustered together. Some are even on the floor under the tree. The littles are redecorating the tree everyday. I’m not stressing over it. I just let it go! I decided that I would not even put out the nice ornaments this year. It is just not worth the stress of having to keep them away from the little hands. Worrying about them getting broken or having to tell the littles to leave them alone. I chose to be joyful and not stressful.

The outside lights are getting put up this weekend I believe and I am not even stressed about the fact that we have two wreaths hung on the bottom front two windows and the others are still in the garage. Normally this would really bug me and the fact that they are not up yet would normally drive me crazy. But guess what. I’m not stressing over it. We had rain on the day I was going to go on the roof to put out the wreaths and lights and I am just thankful for the rain. The lights will get up when we get to them. Is it really worth stressing over? Nope! Ahh I feel the calm.

We have presents in the office that need to be wrapped and I plan on doing that soon lol. But stressing over the presents that are not wrapped and the fact that the tree has no presents under it is not worth it. Letting the littles play around the tree and under the tree and just playing and watching them have fun is more important. Calm not stress.

I am enjoying the moment and letting my children help do things.

Being Calm and Not Stressed

There is just something about learning to loosen up and not being in control. There is a sense of calmness that takes over you. The stress is gone.

To not be bossy.

To not be on edge.

To not use sharp words.

To not be rolling eyes.

To not being harsh.

To not crush spirits.

To not shoot down hopes or ideas.

To not be stressed.

To not be overwhelmed.

It is way less work and stress by letting go and not having to be in control.

How can you Let It Go?

If you want to join me this season then jump right in. Back off on making all the decisions. Let your family decide what they may want to do, even if it is very different from the norm. Ask their opinions on things and let them feel involved.

What Does God Say

Phillipians 2:3-5

“Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourself. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.”


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When You Don’t Feel A Part Of The Group!

By November 18, 2016 Encouragement, General, Mom Life
When You Don't Feel A Part Of The Group!

If you are anything like me then you know exactly how it feels to be left out and not part of the group.

There have been many times in my life that I have felt lonely. I have felt like I was just not in the “clique”.

I have shed many tears wondering, “why?”.

Many times I would feel part of the group only to be left out of something.

I was a high school cheerleader, so you would think I was part of the “in girls” right? No!

I was friends with them and we had fun but I was not always invited to the sleepovers, the parties, or the shopping trips. It hurt!

I had close friends that I love dearly even to this day, but we have been pulled apart in different directions through the years. Marriages, babies, jobs, and just life in general have made getting together not so easy. Being in different stages of life made it awkward to hang out. Sometimes it was just easier to not get together.

Of course that is not what always happened or how I always felt.  I remember crying when I thought I had a new friend that was going to be my new best friend only to find out that she was out doing something with other girls and didn’t invite me. I would ask myself.

“Are they cooler?”
“Are they more fun?”
“Am I weird? ”
“What is wrong with me? ”
“Did I make her mad?”
All these things would go through my head and to be honest it only made me feel worse. Why was I left out of the group?

I now see my teenage girls going through the same things. Friendships are hard! With all the social media these days it can sting even worse than when I was young. Girls texting each other in group messages and leaving one out and then talking about the message in front of the one left out. Instagram pics of parties, shopping trips, or sleepovers. Selfies or WEfies  that leave someone out. Or maybe you were all together somewhere taking pics and then you see all the pics posted except the ones you were in :(.  If you were asked to  take the pic of someone and their friends only to not even get photo credits.  And well snapchat is just a work of the devil I believe, but posting all the fun and videos that are going on at the moment and the one not invited gets to see all the fun but not be a part of it. That hurts! Social media just amplifies the hurt of being left out of the group.

I know as a teenager I would try my best to fit into the group. I have seen girls now on social media do things they normally wouldn’t do just to be a part of the clique so they didn’t feel left out. You have to cut your hair a certain way, wear a certain makeup, and wear the exact clothes, shoes, and carry the purses that the “in girls” do only to find out that well that didn’t work either. You still did not feel part of the group.

Thankfully, one day in high school I found God. I had cried for God to help me. For God to guide me. Then I figured it out. God told me, Life isn’t about finding yourself. It’s about discovering who God created You to be.

In 1 Peter 3:4  the Bible says, “Your beauty should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of the great worth in God’s sight. 

I struggled for a long time before I realized that I didn’t have to belong or fit into the group. God doesn’t want you to try to change who you are to fit in. He made you just how he wants you. If you don’t fit into this clique, group, or circle of the “in girls”, that is because that is not where God wants you. He had designed you to be a part of another group. He may have work he wants you to do within another group of girls or women. He will use you where he puts you. If you try to push or change to be part of a group that God doesn’t have you planned to be a part of then you will always feel left out. It has to be in God’s design. He has designed you just like he wants you. You are not weird and nothing is wrong with you. You are just who God created you to be. Be open to where God wants you. He will bring the people in your life right when you need them. They will stand by you in good times and bad, not just the fun times. They will be the friends that let you cry on their shoulders during a break up, stand beside you at your wedding and wear the ugly dress, tell you your pretty when you are 9 months pregnant, help you when your baby won’t sleep, be there when a loved one is sick, and celebrate with you when your children do wonderful things like when they take their first steps, learn to go potty, and accept Jesus as their Lord and Savior. They will be there no matter what.

Not everyone will feel this in their life. Some girls and women fit in no matter what. If you happen to be one of those girls then try to be compassionate and understand how the others feel. When you are posting on social media think about who you could be hurting with your simple but thoughtless post. What doesn’t mean anything to you could be devastating to someone else. If you know someone is hurting by what you have done then try to go out of your way to show love to that person. They may not fit into your “group”, but that doesn’t mean that you have to be hurtful or rub it in their face that they “don’t fit”!

1 John 4:19
“We love because he first loved us.”

John 15:12-13
12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

John 3:16
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting Life.”


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Voting: To Vote Or Not

By November 8, 2016 Encouragement, General
Vote: To Vote Or Not

Many people think, “why does it matter if I vote?”

They think that their one vote will not make a difference. But think what if everyone thought that way. Then no one would vote.

Maybe they are not confident in their choice.
Maybe they aren’t making an educated decision.
Maybe they feel there isn’t a good candidate.

All of these are good reasons to educate yourself. Don’t always listen to what everyone else is saying about the candidate and make your own decisions. Pray for God’s wisdom. Pray for God to convict these candidates. Pray for our country.

Joshua 1:9b

“… Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

I am not going to tell you who to vote for in this blog post. I think you need to research the candidates, pray, and vote based on the Bible.

I really don’t think either candidate has a true relationship with the Lord. If they do then I apologize. I just do not see the fruit in their everyday life.
With that being said we are all sinners!

We all have a freedom of speech and this is mine.

The Value of Life

Let’s discuss the issue of abortion. Sanctity of Life is very important. God is to choose when we are born and when we die. When we take that into our own hands then we are going against God. It is murder! All day everyday, it is murder. I know many think, well if something is wrong with the baby it is ok. Some think, well if someone is raped then it is ok because who wants to be born out of rape. I just want to say if God allowed this child to be conceived then he has a plan for that human being. Just think if your parents had aborted you. I also know many people that have been  born that were supposed to have disabilities that turned out fine or have brought others to Jesus because of their disability. There are also many lawyers, doctor, nurses, pastors, service men and women, fire police and medic personnel, mothers, and fathers that their parents chose life instead of aborting them. There are also many people in the world that cannot have children and would love to adopt a child that is not wanted or planned. Would you really go tell someone that was a product of rape that they should have been aborted? I didn’t think so.

Children and Our Future

We need to think about the Future of our Country! Do we want our children to be taught morals? Yes!
One man and one woman is what God designed and I believe that is where God wants us to remain. Life can not happen with two men or two women. It takes a man and a woman to create life. Sorry but the facts are the facts.
We need our children to see that the ones who are supposed to be leading our country are morally correct. Telling lies, cheating, hiding things, allowing the murder of unborn babies, and allowing same sex marriages is just not moral.
Treating everyone as equals should not be an option. Racism should be stopped not encouraged. We all should show Love to everyone no matter their color. Loving as God does.
Those who are coming from other countries should be welcomed here of course. But they should be legal! They should have to purchase health plans and pay their health bills just like we do. There are many people that work hard everyday who are struggling to pay their health care bills and insurance, while there are illegal immigrants who are getting free health care. Well we all know that the tax payers are actually the ones paying for their health care. So we pay for ours and theirs actually.  I think if you are caught here illegally then you are to be transported back. I also think the illegal immigrants are taking the jobs that US citizens should have. Maybe we wouldn’t have so many on unemployment and homeless if our citizens were the ones employed instead of the illegal immigrants working for cheap pay under the table. I understand them wanting to be here I do. I also think we should welcome everyone to our soil, but they should take the appropriate measures to be Legal!
I know we are all sinners!! All of us! We all fall short everyday including me, but I have to say you are being held at a higher standard when you want to be a leader of our country just like a pastor is held at a higher standard in everyones eyes. They of all people need to be an example.

Protecting Our Families

We have some in the running that want to take away our right to bear arms!  What? Really? It should be our Right to Protect ourselves and our families. Most who have a true relationship with the Lord are not the ones doing the mass killings or killing others at all. It is the criminals who are able to get their hands on guns illegally that are doing the killings. So taking away our right to bear arms is just going to make it even worse. We will be unable to protect ourselves. Is that really going to help? I think not!

Money Money Money

Well it is pretty clear that we are in debt. Both the Republicans and Democrats have contributed to the 19 trillion debt that we are in. Were any of them actually thinking about the country or were they just doing what they wanted. I saw presidents taking vacations that were not exactly a need I don’t believe. Also taking them during holidays causing for more security to be away from their families. If the candidates would give their money to the country instead of their campaigns I think that would help :)! It is pretty self explanatory, if you don’t have the money you don’t spend it. We teach our kids this and they grasp it, so hello!!

To Vote Or Not Vote

So if you are debating on voting or not please take a little time and educate yourself, Pray, and GO VOTE! If you do not vote then you can’t complain about who wins or loses. I do not think either candidate is perfect, they are far from perfect and so am I :). Let God lead you in a decision.

Do not let Fear hold you back.

James 2:17b

“… faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead”

Your actions to vote must line up with your faith. Seize the opportunity you have to vote and make your vote count.

Take Action!


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Am I Offending God?

By November 7, 2016 Encouragement
Did I Hurt God?

Ephesians 4:30
“Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.”

Sometimes we ask God a question and want an immediate answer. It doesn’t always happen does it?

It would be awesome if every time we wanted an answer about something we could just pray and know that at that moment God would very clearly answer that question. To have clear immediate answers would just be so nice. No wondering or thinking. No questioning if it was God speaking to us or not.

Oh yeah, that would be pretty awesome!

I have had to deal with some difficult situations through life and asked God for answers, clarity, or a push in the right direction. I have prayed, read scripture, meditated on His Word and searched for an answer. I wanted a clear answer of what God wanted me to do. You know a light bulb moment where I just knew it was from God. Point me to a verse that will be very clear. Speak out loud to me. Make something happen. I wanted a very clear answer so I felt confident in making the decisions I needed to make.

I have even said, ok God if you make this happen today then I will know you want me to do this. Or Lord make this happen if you want me to go this path. I have even said, “God why are you not answering me? Why is this so hard? Can you just please show me the way. You know I’m waiting on you, right?”

That is when the verse form Ephesians came to my mind very clearly. The only thing I could do was think oh how I have grieved the Holy Spirit of God. I apologized to God. I told God how much I loved him and how I loved him more than life and that he was the most important thing. I am so unworthy of His love.

As I read Ephesians 4 God directed me toward words that were answers I needed. Like a light was shinning down on the verse and highlighting certain words for me.

It hit me that I was not really in God’s word like I needed to be. I was not being a good christian mom, wife, daughter, or friend. I was being frustrated with the ones I loved. I was letting bitterness and anger inside my heart. All these things were causing me to grieve His Spirit which was not what I wanted at all, but the little sins were causing so much bad in my life. I was not showing good fruits of the spirit. Love, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and self control were not being expressed by me at all. This was hurting the feelings and emotions of the Holy Spirit.

As I told God how sorry I was and confessed my sins I felt such a relief and closeness to God.

To live like Christ we must forgive and extend kindness to others forgiving them as God forgave us. We must express love from deep within our hearts.

God gave us a His Holy Spirit as a guide and companion for life. I thank God for His unconditional love for me. He loves me even when I am not acting as I should. I pray God will make me aware of my sins and help me to repent and move forward in Him.

Ephesians 4:30
“Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.”

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By October 17, 2016 Encouragement, Mom Life

Modesty In Today’s World

Today modesty is just not important to way too many people. You can go to malls and see girls and women walking around with shorts so short that no boy or man would even need to use their imagination. Their shirts are either very short showing all of their stomachs or cut so low that their cleavage or breasts are very much exposed. Why is it that females feel they need to show so much skin? Is it low self esteem? High self esteem? I was raised to be modest and I am trying to instill this in my daughters in a world that is just not modest.

Girls Clothing

It is very hard to find clothing for young girls and teens these days. Shorts are just way too short in my opinion. Jeans are way too tight. I just think there are not a lot of choices for our daughters these days. It is a constant struggle to make sure their clothes fit and are not too short or tight. Then of course you have to deal with the, “Everyone wears their clothes like this, MOM!”

Schools and After School Activities

Back when I was in school there were dress codes in the schools. I know some schools still have them but some just do nothing about how students are dressed. When I go to the middle school and see 6th, 7th, and 8th grade girls walking around with cut off shorts that their bottoms are hanging out of and a spaghetti strap shirt that is also cut short enough to show their belly button something is wrong! And who is letting their daughters out of the house like that?!?! I know that girls will change their clothes or take off a sweater or jacket after they leave the house. I have seen my own girls do this and well, lets just say it didn’t go over very well. I check their social media sites and I highly suggest everyone do this. If I see my children wearing something that is not modest or not what they walked out of the house wearing I do address it. So, yes I know this can happen but we have to stay on top of it and there needs to be consequences when it does.

Innocence and Purity

Shouldn’t we strive to maintain the innocence and purity in our children as long as possible? Children are born with such a sweet innocence. Their pure minds are so precious and we should want them to stay that way! I don’t want my children to hear bad things or see impure things. Once they see it or hear it they no longer are pure and innocent. The Song of  Songs is very clear that we are charged to not awaken love until the appropriate time as it states it three times. Look at Song of Song 2:7; 3:5; 8:4. I think this is very important!

What Does Modesty Reveal

Modesty is a reflection of how we think, love and obey God. Modesty is not only the way we dress though. It is also our attitudes, our behavior, and the language that comes out of our mouth and even written in social media. When you see a girl or boy dressed showing more than needed, do you like the photo? Do you comment on the photo? Do you share it or show it to others? Do you have impure thoughts when looking at it? God knows your thoughts.

Focus on God 

We must focus on God and pleasing Him as well as carrying out His good works. When you or your children get dressed ask these questions. Would you wear this to church? Would you wear it in front of your youth leader or preacher? Would you wear it if you were going to meet the Lord today? Would Jesus approve of what you are wearing? Could what you have on cause someone else to sin? If you answer these questions and feel good about what you are wearing then you should be ok.

We should be focused on God so that we may shine for Him in a pleasing way!

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Bibles and Babies

By January 13, 2016 Encouragement
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Sometimes we get up and it seems like everything is going wrong.

We woke up late.

One of the kids was in a bad mood.

Maybe we didn’t sleep because of a new baby.

Maybe we just don’t feel good.

We have to make a choice to make it a good day. Even if the day is almost over you can turn your day around.

Think to yourself:

This is a good day the Lord has made and I AM  going to rejoice and be GLAD in it!

Grab your Bible and sit down and read and talk to God. Don’t forget to let Him have time to speak back. ( Not always verbally but in other ways)

If you have littles grab them up and hug them, love them, and have a good tickle fest. ( Laughing and tickling littles always make things better. I mean who can resist a good laugh from a baby right! 🙂 )

Just try to find Joy in what you are doing wether it is dishes, laundry, bathrooms, snotty noses, stomach viruses, or whatever you are going through.

Remember you are not alone. God is with you through it all. He is holding your hand, hugging you when you need a hug, listening when you need to talk, scream, or cry, and patting you on the back when you turn your day around and glorify Him in your daily tasks.

You can do this!

Bibles and Babies make it all better!

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