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Making More Room For God In Your Everyday Life

By January 29, 2017 Encouragement

Do you want to make more room for God in your everyday life?

How do you do that you might say.

Life is so busy. Between rolling out of bed in the morning to climbing in the bed at night (yep, I have to roll and climb in and out of bed, short girl problems) there are only thousands of things that we have on our to-do-list.

So, how do you make more time in the day you say. There are only 24 hours and we need our sleep, our children need to eat, our houses need cleaning, laundry has to be done, and everyone needs to be taken somewhere. I get it I really do. As a mom of 5 ranging from 15 to 1, I totally get it.

We may desire more of Gods word and presence in our lives but do we really make him a priority?

You have to make room for Him.

Let me just tell you that just as bad as you need more of God in your life, he desires the same thing. He desires time with you!

Remember that God is present all the time.

When you wake up in the morning thank Him for breath and life.

When you are worried, seek His guidance and draw near to Him.

When your children are “upsetting” you, pray and let them see you praying. Sometimes you don’t have to actually say anything to them. You can pray openly in front of them and let them see and hear you asking God for guidance.

When you get in your car to take the kids to school or practices, pray for safe travels.

When you are on Facebook and you see a request for prayer, stop right there and pray.

When you are feeling lonely, scared, hurt, overwhelmed, emotional, in pain, unhappy, or worried remember
Psalm 145:18 “The Lord is near to all who call upon Him, To all who call upon Him in truth”.

Whatever you are doing include God.

Get out your Bible and read it. Don’t just let it collect dust. Don’t just use it on Sunday’s. Lay your Bible out on the counter and focus on one verse per day. Think about that verse all day in each thing you do that day. Let it sink in and understand it.

I love to make stick it notes of important verses and put them on the bathroom mirrors, fridge, or over the light switches.

Another great way to get Gods word in is to do hand verses. Take a verse and write it on your hand. You will see that verse all day long and be reminded of it and God. It is a great example of how He is always there with you.

He wants to be in every part of your day, from the small things to the huge things.

I have found that when I do these small things it really changes my mood. I feel more calm, joy, confidence, and comfort in my daily walk of life.

We just need to make God a priority in our lives and then our lives won’t seem so hectic.

James 4:8 “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you”

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Let It Go! How We Can Have Peace With The In-Laws Out-Laws This Season

By December 7, 2016 Encouragement

We all have family.

We may have in-laws  and out-laws, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, and extended family galore.

Some of us love our family and love getting together with them.

Some of us don’t love all of our family that much and get togethers are scary to say the least.

I grew up in a large family as my mom is one of 5. We always did Christmas Eve as a very large group with all the aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, great grandparents, great aunts and uncles, and cousins that counted well past 2nd and 3rd. It was so much fun! Then all got together again for Christmas morning for breakfast. I remember it being really crowded in my grandparents house but it was great. I don’t remember their being any issues. I was a kid and life was good.

But as we have all got older times have changed. I can see the problems. The ones that are not always as welcomed. The ones that are not the favorites. The ones that don’t come to all the family get togethers.

When you are older you can see more with open eyes than when you are young.

You may notice that there are all sorts of types of people in your family. There could be introverts and extroverts, republicans and democrats, Christians and athiest, stay at home moms and working moms. This could be a recipe for disaster for sure!

These family times do not have to be stressful or torture. It can be calm, stress free, and enjoyable!

They can be times of learning and loving, letting go of control, and depending on God. It could be a time that God has designed to use you or someone else to reach someone that may be lost or needs a reminder of our Loving Father.


How Can We Have Peace With The In-Laws and Out-Laws

Here are a few tips for how you can have peace during the holidays with your family.

Make Peace Your Ultimate Goal

If you desire peace and strive for peace and make it a goal then you can have it. You can not control how everyone behaves but you can strive to meet your goal anyway.

Romans 12:18 “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”

You can not control another persons behavior but you can control yours and your reactions.
Control your reaction to behaviors.
You can not control others actions and they may be hurtful or cruel.
You can control  your actions making sure you are not hurtful or cruel.
You can not control how others think about you, their opinions on your mothering, cooking, finances, political views, or your spirituality.
You can control your conduct and make sure everything you do is pleasing to God.
Make sure that when everything is over that you did what you could to bring glory to God.
Make sure that you have no regrets for the way you acted or reacted.

As you go into this season think of one person that you will see that you have a hard time getting along with or you avoid.

Now think of something that you can do to reach out to that person to show the unconditional love. Think of a way to show them the Love of Jesus this Christmas. (Unconditional love means it has nothing to do with their actions or beliefs.) Show the Love of Christ this Christmas and let God work through you.

Prepare Your Heart

Maybe you have had conflict with a family member in the past. Think back, did you pray for the situation?
This year pray in advance for this person or people and for the situation. Pray for your interactions with them. Ask God to prepare your heart for the family interactions that will take place this season. Make notes to remind you to pray for this time and how God will use you.

Prepare Your Home

If you will be hosting a family gathering in your home then take the time to prepare. Make each person coming feel welcome. It could change their attitudes when they walk through that door if you greet them and welcome them. Have something special for that person that likes to cause a scene. Make a special treat that they love and let them know it is just for them. Have a seat ready for them so they don’t feel unwanted.

If you have a family member that just likes to get to you by meddling, putting you down or making smart comments every time you turn around then pray hard. 🙂 This is going to be hard but I want you to think of one or two things that you really like about this person. Buy a card just for this person. In it mention then things you really like about them and how glad you are that they are in your life. Mail it to this person a week before the gathering. Now, don’t expect a reaction. Don’t expect a thank you. Don’t expect change. Just pray that God will soften their heart and that change will happen. But don’t be disappointed if you don’t see change. This is for God not her anyway.

Along with praying for this time with these people I want you to meditate on this up coming time. Say these things to yourself daily.
I love my family.
I am blessed to have family.
I am blessed to have these people in my life.
God is good to me.
God loves everyone.
And don’t forget to smile.

What God Says

Romas 12:17-19

“Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”

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Is Your Identity Defined By You Or God?

By November 30, 2016 Encouragement

How do you define your identity?

Do you define it or do you let God define it?

Well I have defined my identity so many times by what is going on in my life.

One day I may feel like I am succeeding as a mother, wife, and daughter of God and the next I feel like a major failure.
Just as I thought everything was going good something would happen in a blink of an eye that would change my entire outlook on who I was.
You know, you scream at the kids, you don’t get all the projects done that you had on your to-do-list for the day, you forget the doctors appointment, you burn dinner, or you just feel like nothing is going right at all. Boy have I been there a few times.

My identity would change often. It was like a roller coaster of identities and emotions. I feel like my actions are linked to my identity. It’s very easy to get down and out when things aren’t going well. But should our identity be made up of our mishaps? No. Satan wants us to label ourself by what we do and don’t do. He wants us to feel like a failure. That is when he sneaks in and works on us. He decreases our value in our mind and heart during these times.

Thankfully, God is always there and has a different identity for us.

He doesn’t link our actions to how much he loves us. His love is unchanging.

John 1:12 says, “Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.”

Some days I have to remind myself this multiple times. It is so easy to get discouraged and think of myself as a failure when my actions don’t meet my expectations, but I have to stop, pray, and remind myself that God is there. His word tells us how He loves us and how he identifies us. Not as a failure but a child of God.

Romans 5:6-8 says, “You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungoldy. Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this. While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

Our value, identity, and self worth should not be defined by our actions. God accepts us just the way we are.

The only thing that should matter is what God thinks about us and that is unchanging.

Let’s have unshakable belief in our identity because God has identified us as HIS!

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By November 29, 2016 Encouragement
Cocoa for Christmas

The holiday season can be very busy. Everyone running around trying to get just the right present.

All the fun get togethers that we have to prepare for and go to.

Sometimes it’s nice to just sit down with a cup of hot COCOA and enjoy the moment. Sit looking at your tree and the lights, or watch your children as they enjoy the season and soak it all in.

While you sit with your cup of hot COCOA this CHRISTmas season think about this:


Matthew 1:18 NKJV

Christ Born of Mary

18 Now the birth of Jesus Christ was as follows: After His mother Mary was betrothed to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Spirit.

Christ is the reason for the season, we all know that. But, it is so easy to get distracted by all the shopping, planning, and running around. As we try to find just the right present lets also try to focus on God’s word and heart this season.


1 Peter 3:3-4 NKJV

Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.

We spend so much time decorating our house to try to make it look just picture perfect. We also need to try to have His kindness and patience and  adorn our heart and spirit with the love and compassion of God. Let’s look for ways to bless others and those in need just as Jesus would have.



Proverbs 15:13 NKJV

13 A merry heart makes a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken.

Christmas is meant to be a joyous season, but not everyone is joyful. Some are sad and depressed from different situations in life and this time of year can make those things worse instead of better. Remind yourself each day that you are loved as a child of God. These seasons will come and go but the love and compassion of the Lord is always there no matter what day or time it is.


Matthew 2:10-11 NKJV

10 When they saw the star, they rejoiced with exceeding great joy.

11 And when they had come into the house, they saw the young child with Mary his mother, and fell down, and worshipped him: and when they had opened their treasures, they presented unto him gifts; gold, and frankincense and myrrh.

During these busy times it is so easy to become overwhelmed. When you find yourself getting overwhelmed by all the things that still need to be done stop what you are doing and think of how Jesus came to us and is our Savior. Become overjoyed by His love and what Jesus did for us on the cross.


John 10:10b NKJV

10 The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I have come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.

CHRISTmas is an abundant time for sure. There is an abundance of food, gifts, laughter, smiles, and happiness in general. Although these things are sometimes temporary we can be assured of the abundant life Jesus gave to us. We have Jesus everyday of the year and can celebrate that each and everyday as we have His peace, mercy, and Love.

So, as you sit with your hot cup of COCOA this year think back to these things. Let the warmth of the COCOA fill your mind, body, and spirit with Jesus who is the Reason for the Season. As these things pour into your heart let them flow out to those around you.

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When You Don’t Feel A Part Of The Group!

By November 18, 2016 Encouragement, General, Mom Life
When You Don't Feel A Part Of The Group!

If you are anything like me then you know exactly how it feels to be left out and not part of the group.

There have been many times in my life that I have felt lonely. I have felt like I was just not in the “clique”.

I have shed many tears wondering, “why?”.

Many times I would feel part of the group only to be left out of something.

I was a high school cheerleader, so you would think I was part of the “in girls” right? No!

I was friends with them and we had fun but I was not always invited to the sleepovers, the parties, or the shopping trips. It hurt!

I had close friends that I love dearly even to this day, but we have been pulled apart in different directions through the years. Marriages, babies, jobs, and just life in general have made getting together not so easy. Being in different stages of life made it awkward to hang out. Sometimes it was just easier to not get together.

Of course that is not what always happened or how I always felt.  I remember crying when I thought I had a new friend that was going to be my new best friend only to find out that she was out doing something with other girls and didn’t invite me. I would ask myself.

“Are they cooler?”
“Are they more fun?”
“Am I weird? ”
“What is wrong with me? ”
“Did I make her mad?”
All these things would go through my head and to be honest it only made me feel worse. Why was I left out of the group?

I now see my teenage girls going through the same things. Friendships are hard! With all the social media these days it can sting even worse than when I was young. Girls texting each other in group messages and leaving one out and then talking about the message in front of the one left out. Instagram pics of parties, shopping trips, or sleepovers. Selfies or WEfies  that leave someone out. Or maybe you were all together somewhere taking pics and then you see all the pics posted except the ones you were in :(.  If you were asked to  take the pic of someone and their friends only to not even get photo credits.  And well snapchat is just a work of the devil I believe, but posting all the fun and videos that are going on at the moment and the one not invited gets to see all the fun but not be a part of it. That hurts! Social media just amplifies the hurt of being left out of the group.

I know as a teenager I would try my best to fit into the group. I have seen girls now on social media do things they normally wouldn’t do just to be a part of the clique so they didn’t feel left out. You have to cut your hair a certain way, wear a certain makeup, and wear the exact clothes, shoes, and carry the purses that the “in girls” do only to find out that well that didn’t work either. You still did not feel part of the group.

Thankfully, one day in high school I found God. I had cried for God to help me. For God to guide me. Then I figured it out. God told me, Life isn’t about finding yourself. It’s about discovering who God created You to be.

In 1 Peter 3:4  the Bible says, “Your beauty should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of the great worth in God’s sight. 

I struggled for a long time before I realized that I didn’t have to belong or fit into the group. God doesn’t want you to try to change who you are to fit in. He made you just how he wants you. If you don’t fit into this clique, group, or circle of the “in girls”, that is because that is not where God wants you. He had designed you to be a part of another group. He may have work he wants you to do within another group of girls or women. He will use you where he puts you. If you try to push or change to be part of a group that God doesn’t have you planned to be a part of then you will always feel left out. It has to be in God’s design. He has designed you just like he wants you. You are not weird and nothing is wrong with you. You are just who God created you to be. Be open to where God wants you. He will bring the people in your life right when you need them. They will stand by you in good times and bad, not just the fun times. They will be the friends that let you cry on their shoulders during a break up, stand beside you at your wedding and wear the ugly dress, tell you your pretty when you are 9 months pregnant, help you when your baby won’t sleep, be there when a loved one is sick, and celebrate with you when your children do wonderful things like when they take their first steps, learn to go potty, and accept Jesus as their Lord and Savior. They will be there no matter what.

Not everyone will feel this in their life. Some girls and women fit in no matter what. If you happen to be one of those girls then try to be compassionate and understand how the others feel. When you are posting on social media think about who you could be hurting with your simple but thoughtless post. What doesn’t mean anything to you could be devastating to someone else. If you know someone is hurting by what you have done then try to go out of your way to show love to that person. They may not fit into your “group”, but that doesn’t mean that you have to be hurtful or rub it in their face that they “don’t fit”!

1 John 4:19
“We love because he first loved us.”

John 15:12-13
12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

John 3:16
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting Life.”


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Voting: To Vote Or Not

By November 8, 2016 Encouragement, General
Vote: To Vote Or Not

Many people think, “why does it matter if I vote?”

They think that their one vote will not make a difference. But think what if everyone thought that way. Then no one would vote.

Maybe they are not confident in their choice.
Maybe they aren’t making an educated decision.
Maybe they feel there isn’t a good candidate.

All of these are good reasons to educate yourself. Don’t always listen to what everyone else is saying about the candidate and make your own decisions. Pray for God’s wisdom. Pray for God to convict these candidates. Pray for our country.

Joshua 1:9b

“… Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

I am not going to tell you who to vote for in this blog post. I think you need to research the candidates, pray, and vote based on the Bible.

I really don’t think either candidate has a true relationship with the Lord. If they do then I apologize. I just do not see the fruit in their everyday life.
With that being said we are all sinners!

We all have a freedom of speech and this is mine.

The Value of Life

Let’s discuss the issue of abortion. Sanctity of Life is very important. God is to choose when we are born and when we die. When we take that into our own hands then we are going against God. It is murder! All day everyday, it is murder. I know many think, well if something is wrong with the baby it is ok. Some think, well if someone is raped then it is ok because who wants to be born out of rape. I just want to say if God allowed this child to be conceived then he has a plan for that human being. Just think if your parents had aborted you. I also know many people that have been  born that were supposed to have disabilities that turned out fine or have brought others to Jesus because of their disability. There are also many lawyers, doctor, nurses, pastors, service men and women, fire police and medic personnel, mothers, and fathers that their parents chose life instead of aborting them. There are also many people in the world that cannot have children and would love to adopt a child that is not wanted or planned. Would you really go tell someone that was a product of rape that they should have been aborted? I didn’t think so.

Children and Our Future

We need to think about the Future of our Country! Do we want our children to be taught morals? Yes!
One man and one woman is what God designed and I believe that is where God wants us to remain. Life can not happen with two men or two women. It takes a man and a woman to create life. Sorry but the facts are the facts.
We need our children to see that the ones who are supposed to be leading our country are morally correct. Telling lies, cheating, hiding things, allowing the murder of unborn babies, and allowing same sex marriages is just not moral.
Treating everyone as equals should not be an option. Racism should be stopped not encouraged. We all should show Love to everyone no matter their color. Loving as God does.
Those who are coming from other countries should be welcomed here of course. But they should be legal! They should have to purchase health plans and pay their health bills just like we do. There are many people that work hard everyday who are struggling to pay their health care bills and insurance, while there are illegal immigrants who are getting free health care. Well we all know that the tax payers are actually the ones paying for their health care. So we pay for ours and theirs actually.  I think if you are caught here illegally then you are to be transported back. I also think the illegal immigrants are taking the jobs that US citizens should have. Maybe we wouldn’t have so many on unemployment and homeless if our citizens were the ones employed instead of the illegal immigrants working for cheap pay under the table. I understand them wanting to be here I do. I also think we should welcome everyone to our soil, but they should take the appropriate measures to be Legal!
I know we are all sinners!! All of us! We all fall short everyday including me, but I have to say you are being held at a higher standard when you want to be a leader of our country just like a pastor is held at a higher standard in everyones eyes. They of all people need to be an example.

Protecting Our Families

We have some in the running that want to take away our right to bear arms!  What? Really? It should be our Right to Protect ourselves and our families. Most who have a true relationship with the Lord are not the ones doing the mass killings or killing others at all. It is the criminals who are able to get their hands on guns illegally that are doing the killings. So taking away our right to bear arms is just going to make it even worse. We will be unable to protect ourselves. Is that really going to help? I think not!

Money Money Money

Well it is pretty clear that we are in debt. Both the Republicans and Democrats have contributed to the 19 trillion debt that we are in. Were any of them actually thinking about the country or were they just doing what they wanted. I saw presidents taking vacations that were not exactly a need I don’t believe. Also taking them during holidays causing for more security to be away from their families. If the candidates would give their money to the country instead of their campaigns I think that would help :)! It is pretty self explanatory, if you don’t have the money you don’t spend it. We teach our kids this and they grasp it, so hello!!

To Vote Or Not Vote

So if you are debating on voting or not please take a little time and educate yourself, Pray, and GO VOTE! If you do not vote then you can’t complain about who wins or loses. I do not think either candidate is perfect, they are far from perfect and so am I :). Let God lead you in a decision.

Do not let Fear hold you back.

James 2:17b

“… faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead”

Your actions to vote must line up with your faith. Seize the opportunity you have to vote and make your vote count.

Take Action!


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Bibles and Babies

By January 13, 2016 Encouragement
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Sometimes we get up and it seems like everything is going wrong.

We woke up late.

One of the kids was in a bad mood.

Maybe we didn’t sleep because of a new baby.

Maybe we just don’t feel good.

We have to make a choice to make it a good day. Even if the day is almost over you can turn your day around.

Think to yourself:

This is a good day the Lord has made and I AM  going to rejoice and be GLAD in it!

Grab your Bible and sit down and read and talk to God. Don’t forget to let Him have time to speak back. ( Not always verbally but in other ways)

If you have littles grab them up and hug them, love them, and have a good tickle fest. ( Laughing and tickling littles always make things better. I mean who can resist a good laugh from a baby right! 🙂 )

Just try to find Joy in what you are doing wether it is dishes, laundry, bathrooms, snotty noses, stomach viruses, or whatever you are going through.

Remember you are not alone. God is with you through it all. He is holding your hand, hugging you when you need a hug, listening when you need to talk, scream, or cry, and patting you on the back when you turn your day around and glorify Him in your daily tasks.

You can do this!

Bibles and Babies make it all better!

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